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Friendship and Politics - Can They Mix


Making new friends can be a tricky process. When we first meet someone new, we often get the advice to stick to very safe small talk conversations. We are told that we should never discuss controversial topics such as religion or politics with people we have just met. Either of these two topics can result in a bitter argument if both people are passionate about their differing points of view. You can easily destroy all chances at a friendship if you discuss controversial topics too soon.

Is it always true that we should never bring up the topic of politics with someone we have just met? Is it possible to develop a good friendship or romance with a person if you hate their political beliefs? What if you are attracted to someone, but you hate their politics? Should you limit your friendships and relationships to people who share your political views?

Today in many countries, politics has become very intense, and differing political views can spark an intense argument.

In spite of this, the advice to avoid all discussion of politics with people that you don't know very well is not always necessary.

For example, you might find yourself at a political convention surrounded by thousands of people you don't know, yet you would have a good chance of having great political discussions with anyone of them. It's very possible that most of the people you meet at such an event will love having political conversations with you.

There's another time you might want to bring up politics right away, even when you don't know how the other person will react. You might be one of those people who takes politics so seriously that you don't want to get to know a person slowly and only later find out that their political beliefs don't match your own.

In such a case, you might prefer to have your political discussions right away so that you decide whether or not you want to invest more time in this person.

Most of us are not that extremely passionate about our politics, yet politics still has the potential to break up relationships, especially in the early stages.

That's why we are usually advised to stay away from discussing politics until we know a person better.